She accused her husband of beating her, secretly videotaping her sister undressing and carrying on affairs with three different women, including one nicknamed Cupcake. He complained that his wife last year spent $22,500 on photographs, $27,000 on clothes for their 20-month-old twin daughters, and $1,700 in sign language classes ? even though neither daughter is hearing impaired. This is not the usual stuff of conversations over iced lattes at a Starbucks on Valley Road in Montclair. Then again, not everyone is a star defensive end for the New York Giants, let alone one who briefly flirted with running for a local city council little more than two years ago. So it is not surprising that the couple, Jean and Michael Strahan, who hurled lurid accusations at each other in and out of the Superior Court in Essex County during the past six weeks, were no longer man and wife as of Thursday.